Weddings are a time of celebration and of a coming together of friends, family and loved ones. It can also be a bittersweet time for many who have lost their treasured loved ones. It is therefore very important to acknowledge and honour those who have passed,if appropriate, in some way, at either the ceremony or the reception or in other subtle threads throughout your day.
Here are 5 suggestions on how you can include those special loved ones…
Incorporating photo charms in your bouquet, boutonniere, cufflinks or on your shoes is a subtle way to honour their memory and hold them close.
Reserving chairs for deceased loved ones with a photo or a flower in their place.
Balloon, butterfly or lantern release – representing past present and future.
Family heirlooms introduced to your day are another way of showing respect; it could be a piece of jewellery worn, an item of silver displayed – something they had treasured. This is a lovely way to involve a piece of history or a tradition passed down.
Candle of Remembrance is a simple way to acknowledge those who have passed and are warmly remembered in spirit – to be lit during the ceremony representing the light of their memory.
One example, from a recent wedding I conducted, was the inclusion of an original piece of writing (circa 1927) written by the groom’s grandmother who had passed, someone he was extremely close to…
A Perfect Day
When you come to the end of a perfect day
And you sit alone with your thoughts.
While the chimes sing out with a carol gay
For the joy that the day has brought.
Do you think what the end of a perfect day
Can mean to a friend's heart.
When the sun goes down with a gleaming ray
And the dear friends have to part?
Well, this is the end of a perfect day
Near the end of a journey too.
But it leaves a thought that is big and strong
With a wish that is kind and true.
For memory has painted this perfect day
With colours that never fade.
And we find at the end of a perfect day
The soul of a friend we've made.
There are many ways to include deceased loved ones in your nuptials. Whatever you decide, it is important to find an appropriate way to remember them.