Often when meeting with couples one of the requirements or key things for them are to add a point of difference in their ceremony, to make them stand out from the crowd. I’m going to look at a four case studies of couples I worked with as recently as January 2017.
Couple number one
A couple who were planning their wedding from Perth – New Zealand was their home town.
They had around 80 guests at a ceremony in Markovina. They wanted their ceremony to recognise those they knew and loved, all the important people in their lives. How did we achieve this in the ceremony? We worked together and came up with the following elements:
They asked a respected friend of the family on the groom's side to lead a Mihi
The bride’s father walked her down the aisle
They presented roses as a symbol of love and respect to all the important female role models in their life
They lit a remembrance candle for the groom's parents who had passed and placed two white roses next to it
The crowd were asked to give their love and support to the marriage, they all responded with 'we do', and backed it up with a crowd cheer
They made reference to the groom's children in the ceremony
The couple were very pleased with the outcome:
"Hey Rochelle, we would like to thank you so much for everything. We couldn’t have asked for a more special day, and it seemed to go seamlessly. We both had the best time, and the feedback has been amazing. Thanks again, you were amazing!!"
Couple number two
A couple who had around 70 guests for their wedding at Gracehill Kumeu.
They wanted their ceremony to be friendly and relaxed, their story told with humour, and inclusive of their guests.
We told the story of their first meeting
We asked the crowd to be involved at various points during the ceremony including; offering their love and support, pronouncing them to be husband and wife and to cheer at various points. The crowd responded well and were really engaged with what was happening in the ceremony
Their two closest friends were involved in the speaking, using unique verses they had chosen
They were again very pleased with the outcome:
"Hi Rochelle, first of all thank you so much for doing such a wonderful job as celebrant, Rupert and I loved every minute of our ceremony. So many people told us how great they thought you were, very natural and relaxed – which fitted perfectly with the day we wanted. Your words and style reflected us so well; it really was the perfect ceremony for us. We won't hesitate to recommend you to anyone getting married in the future."
Couple number three
A couple who were expats to New Zealand currently living in the UK.
They wanted a no fuss friendly and relaxed ceremony and wanted to recognise they were on this adventure together. They wanted an inclusive ceremony. The thing they decided to do was to walk in together down the aisle with their bridesmaids and groomsmen preceding them. They felt that marriage was the next part of their journey together, so the first words I chose to say in the ceremony were, “Marriage is…sharing life with your best friend, enjoying the journey along the way and arriving at every destination together”. We also included the crowd at various points in the ceremony, while telling their story and concluding with a fun quote on marriage, “Married life is an adventure. There’s always something to learn, explore and overcome. You laugh, cry, fight, make-up, grow up, speak up, and shut up. It’s epic, memorable, fun, exciting and worth it. Marriage is everything it’s cracked up to be and more.” (Ashley Mcllwain).
The couple were happy with how it all went:
“Thanks again for officiating last Friday. The ceremony was perfect for us and we have had many comments on the ceremony and words you shared.”
Couple number four
A couple who again had around 80 guests for their wedding at Cassels, Waitakere.
They wanted a no-fuss, friendly and relaxed ceremony with a point of difference involving their family.
We involved the parents, offering their parental love and support to the marriage – their parents collectively represented over 80 years of marriage
Her nephew presented the rings
The two mums were involved with the signing of the marriage documents
We did a fun take on their initials ACDC by using the song, Thunderstruck (by ACDC), as their exit tune!
The moral of the story is – when planning and preparing your marriage ceremony, think about the tone and style you are going for, and some key ways you can achieve the outcome you want by incorporating elements that set you apart from the crowd – making sure your ceremony is imprinted in the minds of your guests for years to come.